by Samson Itoje
(Lagos Nigeria)
"25 ways to win with people - How To Make Others Feel Like A Million Bucks" was co-authored by John C. Maxwell and
Les Parrott, Ph.D.
John Maxwell needs no introduction. He is the popular author of the bestseller, "The 21 Irrefutable Laws Of Leadership".
And he is a recognized personality with impressive resume in the leadership arena.
Les Parrott is the author of "High Maintenance Relationships", "The Control Freak, and "Love Talk".
The "25 ways to win with people" is an impressive 178-page book that explores the essential personality traits that a leader
needs to cultivate to successfully win with people.
Below are a handful of principles taught in the "25 ways to win with people" leadership book.
1. The 30-Second Rule
2. Let people know you need them
3. Create a memory and visit it often
4. Compliment people in front of other people
5. Give others a reputation to uphold
6. Encourage the dreams of others
7. Do for others what they can't do for themselves
8. Add value to people
9. Tell a good story
10. Find the keys to their heart
11. Point out people's strength
12. Help people
The above is a list of 12 chapters from Maxwell and Parrott's book.
The book contains 25 chapters - each chapter devoted to a particular way to win with people.
The book makes the point that to win with people, you have to start with yourself. It says, "You cannot enjoy others until you
enjoy yourself because you cannot give to others what you do not have".
There is a fact explained in page 35 I will like you to remember.
The book says, "It's essential that you learn to give compliments in front of others as well as one-on-one. Why? Because that
private compliment turned public, instantly and dramatically increases its value".
I agree with that 100 percent.
The "25 ways to win with people" states a fundamental fact of life on page 172. It quotes Ralp Waldo Emerson as saying:
"It's one of the most beautiful compensations of life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself".
That is so true.
Each chapter of "25 ways to win with people" concludes with specific . . .
1. Things you should forget
2. Questions you should ask yourself
3. Things you should do and
4. What you should always remember
It is important that I point out something a number of people may find offensive about the book.
The book draws on the leadership experiences of John Maxwell. It states specific instances people how benefited from
John and specific examples of how he has used the techniques taught in the book in his relationship with people.
In simple terms . . . the book focuses a lot on John Maxwell.
Find that offensive? Think it's unnecessary self-praise?
Or think it's a great way to drive the point home?
The choice is yours.
In summary, "25 ways to win with people" is a good read for anyone in leadership position and anyone aspiring to win with
people. You surely will learn something that will improve your people skill.
I wholeheartedly recommend "25 Ways To Win With People" by John C. Maxwell and Les Parrott.